By Chris Tataryn
Dr. Dan Rosin has been working with patients across southwest Manitoba for over 40 years, and throughout his time spent helping people towards better mental health, he has picked up on more than a few techniques to share.
"I didn't write this book, it wrote itself," said Rosin.
"I just started keeping a file of every 'a-ha!' moment that happened in therapy with my patients, and after about three years of that, the file I kept them in started getting awfully thick. So I took a week holiday, wrote it all down together, and after some help from friends who know a bit more about the written word, we got it put together."
Dr. Rosin is a 40-year veteran of teaching, wellness, counselling, and therapy. He is a popular writer and speaker whose no-nonsense approach has been appreciated by people in education, the service field, and business. He has the ability to 'hone in' to the heart of the interpersonal issues with warmth and humanness delivered through a humorous, intuitive, and down-to-earth style.
"I've found the concepts in his book apply to all of us," said Rosin.
"People all need to take care of themselves, and not always focus on working so hard and caring for people around them. A lot of the time people focus so much energy on taking care of everybody else, but never themselves, and that can lead to a lot of un-needed stress."
Finding Balance: 101 Concepts for Taking Better Care of Self is an action-oriented guide to begin rethinking where you are in life, clarifying where you wish you were, learning how to get there and giving yourself permission to take better care of self.
"Rosin's rich experiences offer valuable insights into coping with the stresses of the workplace and one's personal demons," said Dr. Fred Shane, associate professor of Psychiatry at the University of Manitoba.
"It is well worth reading."
The 143-page book, made up of 101 concepts, is based on Rosin's 40-years of counselling and therapy with real people, covering issues from relationships and workplace stresses to egos and depression, aimed to offer readers new perspectives that can help them recalibrate their lives.
"One good point I try to focus on in the book is that play isn't nice - it's imperative," said Rosin.
"I'm always telling people to take care of themselves. One time I was at a movie theatre in Winnipeg with my wife, and a person came up to me and said 'It must be nice to be out when you're so busy all the time,' and I yelled back, 'NICE? You think this is NICE? It's not just nice to be here, eating popcorn, holding my wife's hand, enjoying myself...It's not NICE, it's IMPERATIVE!' Just like everyone else, if I didn't take breaks to enjoy myself, I'd burn out."
Another example of dealing with everyday issues in the book is a chapter titled 'Be Married to Your Principles, but Not the Outcomes,' in which Rosin gives the example of discussing with his teenage daughter the many reasons why she should follow her curfew, and how it made him feel like a failure as a parent when she didn't follow the agreed upon rules. He goes on to describe how he eventually improved their communication by learning to share this thoughts and feelings rather than force his 'desired outcomes' on her, teaching readers taht although we must state our principles, we can't be responsible for another person's outcomes.
Finding Balance: 101 Concepts for Taking Better Care of Self will be launched October 20 at McNally Robinson in Winnipeg, and will also be available on the internet. If any readers happen to be in Winnipeg, there will be a Book Launch Concert on October 22 at the Crescent Fort Rouge United Church at 7:30, located on the corner of Ward and Ness.
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